FOCUSED

Recently I fan across and old friend, well a guy I used to date. He told me "Molly, your still the same" I said "really? How?" He replied "your still focused and you taught me so much about reaching for my goals" WOW. Its funny, because I never knew that he felt that way back then. I don't always feel focused and often I get off track. I do know that it was nice hearing that I touched someones life who had a great impact on mine.
I do know that I have kept this fashion dream alive in my mind and heart and soul for like 9 years. It takes a little longer when your two woman doing by yourselves, as single mothers. You run into a few more obstacles. I am grateful for this journey and who I am becoming and have become. It is important to tell people what they mean to you. I know I am blessed to have a business partner and a best friend that lets me fall but never lets go of my hand and always helps me get back up. I am a better person because of knowing Yadiyda and she is for sure a breathe of fresh air in a world of pollution. As for my old friend....he was one of those spirits that stays with you and motivates even if not in your presence. I even named my sewing machine after him..LOLOL!!! He never even knew until this week and I have not even spoken or seen him in like 10 years. So that was a great force of motivation, and I hope I can continue to touch peoples lives for many more years. In my most unfocused moments, I will remember that conversation and REFOCUS..
TELL SOMEONE HOW YOU FEEL TODAY
STAY FOCUSED
love.soul.beautiful
THANKS YADIYDA AND ALEX

sex before friendship?

So this has been the topic of conversation today in the sewing studio....Why do people have sex to start a relationship.....instead of building a foundation of friendship first. Yadiyda's opinion is that in truth sex is something that can be fixed, played with, toyed with to get it right. But you can't "practice" or fix a spiritual connection.....its got to be there or not. For example Yadiyda goes to a club on Sat. night, having a great times realizes that one her ex boyfriends in the club. To her great happiness notices that he is frockling with a young lady and Yadiyda can roam the dance freely without her security guards eye. She ends up dancing with a gorgeous, tall, chocolate just her type of dude who is her perfect fit (meaning, a man that moves his body perfectly with yours and the reggae music is pumping the adrenaline of your soul)*her exact words..LOL* The night ends delightfully and they exchange telephone numbers. The following day they communicate and decide to "hang out" To Yadiyda this means get to know each other..not HAVE SEX!!!!! To her dismay she spends 3 hours explaining to this man that she can not have sex with him, she doesn't even know his last name nor does he hers. But yet in still he is comfortable in the idea of exchanging bodily fluids knowing nothing about her!!!! He then proceeds to have a 27 year old tantrum, she walks away hoping that he comes to his senses. I don't think he has come to his senses yet since he is still calling and sounding very desperate. which leaves us to wonder where has the male backbone gone???? Was it unreasonable to think that she could have a nice conversation and hang out??? LOLOL

I (Molly) am 35 and if I say I don't want to have sex , you are not gonna change my mind. No Kart-wheels or begging or anything is going to entice me. LOL. Just be cool about it. Hold a good conversation, a good night kiss, be a gentleman. Why is this so hard these days?

So my story is.......I meet this guy out and about, immediate chemistry. Very interesting guy, artistic, funny, personable. We hang out. But every time he tries to have sex with me. I have conversation about the fact that I just want to wait to see how we get along. A week or so goes by and he apologizes for being so persistent about the sex thing. I say no problem and even treat him to a nice Italian dinner, because I enjoy his company. About an hour later he says "I wanna have sex" *scratching my head* "Huh"????? This brings me back to the question..was it unreasonable to think that I could have a nice conversation and hang out????

Yadiyda and I both think its funny that guys wanna have sex quickly. See, if you wanna have sex with me quickly then you will want to have sex with any girl you "like" or "find attractive" quickly(of course guys would never admit to this). Just like guys say they don't want a girl that will sleep with anyone, girls don't want a guy that will willy nilly jump in the sack. Ummm that is NOT cute. Waiting is sexy, anticipation is sexy, mental stimulation is sexy, getting to know one another is necessary.