Thursday, November 19, 2009


Recently I fan across and old friend, well a guy I used to date. He told me "Molly, your still the same" I said "really? How?" He replied "your still focused and you taught me so much about reaching for my goals" WOW. Its funny, because I never knew that he felt that way back then. I don't always feel focused and often I get off track. I do know that it was nice hearing that I touched someones life who had a great impact on mine.
I do know that I have kept this fashion dream alive in my mind and heart and soul for like 9 years. It takes a little longer when your two woman doing by yourselves, as single mothers. You run into a few more obstacles. I am grateful for this journey and who I am becoming and have become. It is important to tell people what they mean to you. I know I am blessed to have a business partner and a best friend that lets me fall but never lets go of my hand and always helps me get back up. I am a better person because of knowing Yadiyda and she is for sure a breathe of fresh air in a world of pollution. As for my old friend....he was one of those spirits that stays with you and motivates even if not in your presence. I even named my sewing machine after him..LOLOL!!! He never even knew until this week and I have not even spoken or seen him in like 10 years. So that was a great force of motivation, and I hope I can continue to touch peoples lives for many more years. In my most unfocused moments, I will remember that conversation and REFOCUS..

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

sex before friendship?

So this has been the topic of conversation today in the sewing studio....Why do people have sex to start a relationship.....instead of building a foundation of friendship first. Yadiyda's opinion is that in truth sex is something that can be fixed, played with, toyed with to get it right. But you can't "practice" or fix a spiritual connection.....its got to be there or not. For example Yadiyda goes to a club on Sat. night, having a great times realizes that one her ex boyfriends in the club. To her great happiness notices that he is frockling with a young lady and Yadiyda can roam the dance freely without her security guards eye. She ends up dancing with a gorgeous, tall, chocolate just her type of dude who is her perfect fit (meaning, a man that moves his body perfectly with yours and the reggae music is pumping the adrenaline of your soul)*her exact words..LOL* The night ends delightfully and they exchange telephone numbers. The following day they communicate and decide to "hang out" To Yadiyda this means get to know each other..not HAVE SEX!!!!! To her dismay she spends 3 hours explaining to this man that she can not have sex with him, she doesn't even know his last name nor does he hers. But yet in still he is comfortable in the idea of exchanging bodily fluids knowing nothing about her!!!! He then proceeds to have a 27 year old tantrum, she walks away hoping that he comes to his senses. I don't think he has come to his senses yet since he is still calling and sounding very desperate. which leaves us to wonder where has the male backbone gone???? Was it unreasonable to think that she could have a nice conversation and hang out??? LOLOL

I (Molly) am 35 and if I say I don't want to have sex , you are not gonna change my mind. No Kart-wheels or begging or anything is going to entice me. LOL. Just be cool about it. Hold a good conversation, a good night kiss, be a gentleman. Why is this so hard these days?

So my story is.......I meet this guy out and about, immediate chemistry. Very interesting guy, artistic, funny, personable. We hang out. But every time he tries to have sex with me. I have conversation about the fact that I just want to wait to see how we get along. A week or so goes by and he apologizes for being so persistent about the sex thing. I say no problem and even treat him to a nice Italian dinner, because I enjoy his company. About an hour later he says "I wanna have sex" *scratching my head* "Huh"????? This brings me back to the question..was it unreasonable to think that I could have a nice conversation and hang out????

Yadiyda and I both think its funny that guys wanna have sex quickly. See, if you wanna have sex with me quickly then you will want to have sex with any girl you "like" or "find attractive" quickly(of course guys would never admit to this). Just like guys say they don't want a girl that will sleep with anyone, girls don't want a guy that will willy nilly jump in the sack. Ummm that is NOT cute. Waiting is sexy, anticipation is sexy, mental stimulation is sexy, getting to know one another is necessary.

Monday, November 2, 2009

The Hearts of VentigeSoul: Molly and Yadiyda

At midnight on many nights, when lots of folks are asleep, the owners of VentigeSoul, Molly Jones and Yadiyda Oppong, are burning the midnight oil. You’ll likely find them in the sewing room at Yadiyda’s home, but they might not be sewing the whole time. They might be in a meeting. Or, they could possibly be on the phone with clients who want to talk during the early hours of the morning. Chances are just as likely that you might find them singing to the Reggae music they both adore.
But singing, talking on the phone or having meetings are just the tips of the iceberg, for what these talented women really do is create fabulous fashions to be worn by their many clients during an evening out, while going to the movies or shopping, or just to hanging out with friends or family. For the shared passion of Molly and Yadiyda is to help women, men and children feel good about they way they are dressed. Set design
Molly had the Indie Arie cover photo on Upscale Magazine pinned to her wall and thought the clothing on Arie was wonderful. She didn’t know it was Yadiyda who had designed Arie’s outfit.
She met Yadiyda at a Jada Kiss video shoot. There was an instant connection.
Yadiyda said. “She was bubbly and easy to like. We got on right away, as if we’d been friends forever.”
“I had been approached by many different people to sell my clothes, but I chose Molly, who started selling my handmade fashions in her store, VentigeSoul, which was located in Atlanta’s famed Little Five Points district,” said Yadiyda. .
After about a year, Molly and Yadiyda decided to go into business together. They had built a great relationship of trust by that time. Yadiyda taught Molly how to make one shirt, which wound up selling like hotcakes. “She also taught me how to sew better, how to communicate more efficiently, and how to wear heels,” said Molly with a twinkle in her eyes.
Molly taught Yadiyda how to be less shy and to be more understanding. “She also taught me how to carry a purse, which I never used to do,” laughs Yadiyda.
Molly was born in Florida and brought up in California. She graduated from the College of Alameda in California with a degree in Fashion Merchandising and Marketing. “I’ve loved fashion ever since I can remember. I used to dress up all the neighborhood kids in my grandma’s clothes. When I got back-to-school clothes money, I knew what was going to be in style. I would get teased at school, but a month later all the girls started wearing what I was already wearing. Later, all my friends used to ask me for advice on dressing.”
“I decided I wanted to be a stylist and moved to Atlanta because the music industry was good here. A friend taught me how to make jean skirts and I started to make them for local celebrities,” said Molly.
Yadiyda was born in Ghana and brought up in London. Yadiyda studied and trained in fashion design and embroidery at London College of Fashion and was trained in clothing design and construction at Hounslow College of London. “My mom was my inspiration. She was singing and touring London and making her own costumes.
I got into design about 16 years ago,” she said. “Due to my body shape of a small waist and a large behind, I ended up making my own clothes and going into fashion.”
Perhaps the most telling thing about these VentigeSoul ladies is how they feel about fashion. “Clothing expresses the way people feel about themselves,” said Molly.
People often under-express themselves because of a lack of confidence. Many people wear clothes that are too big. When you feel good wearing it, clothing brings out self-confidence. Most people need to be shown how to dress, because they don’t know how to dress themselves.”
Yadiyda’s feelings about fashion are also strong. “Clothes are an expression of your mood, and, in the same way, clothes can affect your mood. I act the same way a painter does. My canvas is the human body.”
Molly is in charge of marketing now, and Yadiyda does the designing and “is a tailor who makes the clothes with exquisite attention to detail,” said Molly.
Molly loves making the connections and marketing the company’s services. “I’m a people person and have much experience selling. So taking that experience and using it for our company is a natural for me.”
“I put a tiny segment of myself into all the garments I make,” said Yadiyda. “My fashion styles would be described as a little Gothic, a little hard rock, and a little British schoolgirl.”
Now VentigeSoul is ready for the next phase of making people feel good about themselves through the clothing they wear.
One of the most important aspects about marketing a brand is that you have to be the brand every day, not just sometimes, not just at a fashion show – every day is a runway.
Molly and Yadiyda eat, breathe, dress and speak VentigeSoul. They are beautiful women, and it is their passion and mission to bring this mind, state and aura of beauty to the masses.
Mission Statement: To bring the soul of every person out through the clothing they wear and to promote positive self-image regardless of age, race or size. LOVE yourself. Put your SOUL in everything you do. You are BEAUTIFUL..